Beginners should lift challenging weights, but only once the movement pattern is reasonably solid. Start with loads you can control for every planned rep, build technique first, then let the weight climb steadily. Heavy is relative to your current ability, not to what anyone else is lifting.
A useful working definition is a weight where the last two reps are genuinely difficult but every rep looks the same. That might be an empty barbell in week one and something substantial six months later. The relative effort is what drives adaptation; the absolute number on the bar is just bookkeeping.
Load magnifies whatever pattern you already have. If a squat drifts forward at 40 kg it will drift badly at 100 kg, and the joints absorbing that drift will eventually complain. Two to four weeks of deliberate practice at moderate loads costs almost nothing and prevents months of frustration. Ways to check your own technique are covered in how to know if your technique is correct.
Training too light forever is as much a mistake as loading recklessly. If every set feels comfortable and you never approach a challenging effort, there is little reason for your body to change. The fix is not to jump 20 kg but to add small increments consistently.
Get clearance and hands-on coaching first if you have a current injury, a history of back or joint problems, uncontrolled blood pressure, or you are pregnant or recently postpartum. Loading is still usually appropriate, but the starting point and progression should be set by a professional who can assess you.